In the US, you’ll hear Hi, how are you? or Good Morning! Hey, how are you doing’ today? Or when you’re out in the country Hey, how’s your wife and kid?
How Are You
But in other parts of the world, you’ll hear: Hello, and this term. Or How are you, do you like it? Or Do you have a nice day? You’ll hear that ALL the time!
How Are You!! What It Is?
Why is that? It’s no accident. Research shows that Americans don’t talk in the same way as Asians, Africans, Latin Americans, and others in Asia, Africa, and Latin America. This is a problem because when we say hi-hey or how are you, we tend to use more of the English language which is really an informal language, much like a colloquial American language.
The interesting thing is that it doesn’t have to be like that! You can be casual in your English conversation and still come off as highly intelligent and businesslike. Here are some tips for doing just that. First, use the positive answer strategy! When you say hi, say something like “Good morning, how are you?”
Instead of saying Hi, I’m good morning, how are you?” start off with “Good Morning, how are you?” This way the answer will come naturally and you will be giving the listener her own personal answer, which is always a lot better than someone else’s. Plus, when you do this with other people in your social circle you won’t sound so weird.
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“Hello” and “Good Morning”
Another tip for talking in a more polite way is to only use the words “Hello” and “Good Morning” when appropriate. For example, if you are talking to the mailman, use only the words “Good Morning” and “Thank you” when needed. “How are you?” should be used in a polite way and only when needed. Then, of course, there is the question you may be asking yourself such as “How are you?” which can be answered with “Great, how are you?”
The last piece of advice I have for you is to only talk about yourself when asked a question regarding a topic that is very important to you and that you care about. “I love my job, but sometimes I get a little bit nervous about the other things that are going on in the office.” Instead of saying “Good Morning” or “Are you happy?” say something like “I am very pleased, that is very understandable.” If the subject matter is a little bit important to you want to say something a little less polite, and then try something like “I really appreciate the opportunity, I enjoyed speaking with you, and I enjoyed meeting you.”
The simple little steps we have just gave you will help you be a better communicator and get across the message that you are there to say hello to people and that you are a pleasant and happy person. By making a few small adjustments in your voice and posture you will find that people will be a lot more comfortable around you and will respond to you a lot better. They will feel a little bit safer around you because you don’t sound so rude all of the time. Don’t let this stop you from having a great time. Practice it on some friends, family, and random strangers and you will find that in no time at all they will start seeing you in a different way.
It isn’t that hard to talk to someone in a greeting. In fact, once you learn how to do it right, it comes naturally to you. It really is as simple as saying “How are you?” to them and giving them a positive answer. By doing that they will start seeing you in a new light and will begin responding to you in different ways.
When you hear someone say “How are you in Hindi?” say the appropriate reply for the situation. Sometimes the appropriate response is a smile and sometimes a nod of the head. The main thing to remember though is to give the correct response. If they give you a negative response when you say how you are, then they aren’t likely to offer you their full attention in the future either.
As you work through your daily routine of giving people their full attention, you will find that your interaction with them will improve. They will respond to you in different ways and this is something you will need to keep in mind as you go through life. Even if you don’t have good manners now, you can get better. There are many different ways to be more considerate of others including showing them a smile, a nod, a smile, and yes, even a fine response when they ask how are you. When you are asked in a way that makes them feel good about themselves, you will find that this will bring you greater happiness in the future and it is also a great way to get your own personal nice back.